At this year’s Orange Conference in Atlanta I heard Kristen Ivey talk about the five questions a child needs an adult to answer in order to trust them.
- Do you know my name?
- Do you know where I live?
- Do you know what matters to me?
- Do you what I have done?
- Do you know what I can do?
It makes sense doesn’t it? Before extending trust to an adult a child needs to know the adult understands who they are, that the adult has a sense of what matters to them.
When I think about it, the five questions work pretty well for me too.
- I’m flattered when someone takes the trouble to learn my name.
- Not my home address, but aware of something that’s going on in my life.
- I instantly like a person who understands what’s important to me.
- The person who has some sense of my history will sooner earn my trust.
- The person aware of my abilities and achievements gets my attention.
These questions make it personal for the one who is asking and for the one who is answering. If a child asks and I know the answers, then the child will more readily view me as a friend. It isn’t easy because it’s a lot to know, and will take effort and intentional interest.
I like seeing Jesus reaching out to people. Take Zacchaeus for example, it’s Jesus making an effort with intentional interest. It’s Jesus getting personal.
DO YOU KNOW MY NAME? Jesus looked up and called him by name.
DO YOU KNOW WHERE I LIVE? He wanted to go to Zach’s house for the day.
DO YOU KNOW WHAT MATTERS TO ME? Jesus knew money was important to him.
DO YOU KNOW WHAT I HAVE DONE? Jesus knew he collected taxes for Rome.
DO YOU KNOW WHAT I CAN DO? Jesus knew Zach would trade extraordinary greed with extraordinary generosity.
AND US TODAY?
How does Jesus get personal with us? Does he know who we are, does he know our name and what’s happening in our lives, a sense of “where we live” or “Where we are at?”
In my next blog I’ll write about some ways that God gets personal with us.
Jesus spent most of his time with huge crowds. But he often reached out to individuals and did something to change their lives. It’s how Jesus made it personal.
On his way to the cross to save everyone he often stopped to save someone.