“She looks just like you!”
I said that to someone I had recently started working with, about her daughter. Then she told me their daughter was adopted. Wow.
My sister was adopted. It was was public, obvious, and well known. Most adoptions are not that way, but this was different.
- They adopted when I was 10, my brothers were 13 and 12.
- When you show up for church one Sunday with a baby, it gets noticed.
- Everyone knew we didn’t have a baby girl.
- She didn’t resemble either parent.
- She was from Viet Nam.
No, she obviously didn’t favor either parent, so there was no thought of, “keeping it private.” But she soon began to be like us. When she learned to talk, she talked like us. Her mannerisms reflected those of our family. She ate what we ate, did what we did, and went where we went. She was ours and we were hers. We belonged to one another. We were the same.
How That Happened?
Here are some things that made her one of us:
- She had our name.
- She had our values.
- She was taught to know God.
- She was loved equally and in the same way as her brothers.
- She was a Fyffe, through and through.
Paul wrote in Ephesians that God adopts us into his family, 1:5. That we are the Father’s workmanship, the result of his divine will, 2:10. We were given his name, 3:14. And became like him, 5:1-2.
We were all created in the image of God, but that wasn’t about our appearance. My sister didn’t look like my parents, but they were her parents, she was our sister, and she became one with us.
Our spiritual identity comes from God. We wear his name, reflect his values, and share his purpose. We became one with him.
It all came from him, it all points to him.
We look different, but we are one, for we were adopted and fitted into God’s family. It’s not about who you look like, but who you belong to.
I said to my friend, “She looks just like you!” Spiritually, we all look like the Father.