I LOVE CHANGE
The thing about change is that I really don’t like it very much.
Sometimes people say that when change is positive then it’s a good thing, its progress. But when it’s negative then its just something they wish hadn’t happened.
Its all a matter of perspective I guess.
WHEN CHANGE IS GOOD
Here are some changes I would celebrate as progress
- The end of Daylight Savings Time
- Capping the length/cost of Presidential campaigns
- All construction on I-45 being magically completed
- Everybody being happy with everyone all the time.
- Never having to say good-bye.
Here are some changes I would like to not see happen anymore
- Needing new eye glasses every two years.
- Friends leaving to work somewhere else.
- Loved ones suddenly passing away.
- Shows I care about being delayed by games I don’t care about.
- Games I care about being delayed by games I don’t care about.
IT HAPPENS TO EVERYONE
One of my hardest changes ever was leaving our son at college. I’m an emotional man, but was unprepared for the amount emotion it caused.
Some of the worst changes I’ve seen have been divorces affecting family and close friends; it’s life being ripped apart.
Did knowing Judas was going to betray him make it easier for Jesus when Judas kissed him in Gethsemane?
Did Jesus feel a little less disappointment when Peter denied him, knowing ahead of time that he was going to?
Sure, I love change.
Here are some suggestions. I don’t know if they’re any good, you will decide for yourselves. But here you go:
- All life moves. Humanity is one massive migration.
- Life is dynamic. Don’t get too attached to routine and sameness.
- People aren’t perfect. Translation: people will let you down, count on it.
- People aren’t perfect. Translation: you will let others down, count on it.
- Everyone and everything moves forward, change is inevitable.
SOME FINAL THOUGHTS
We are never prepared for sudden and dramatic change. Why? Because such changes aren’t normal, aren’t daily experiences.
Change can be sudden, it can be surprising, it can be amazingly good or agonizingly painful, but it happens.
You have to let go. You have to let people move on. You have to move forward with your life. And sometimes you have to say good-bye.
Sometimes saying good-bye happens at the funeral, sometimes at the courthouse, and sometimes in the dorm parking lot.
But it happens.
Don’t get trapped in the emotional quicksand of wishing and wondering and withering away in the pain of the unknown.
God bless you.