IN THE BEGINNING
God created man and woman. God created Eve because Adam needed a suitable helper. Adam was maybe hours old when God thought, “I think he’s going to need some help.”
From the very beginning of man’s beginning, he needed a best friend.
The Hebrew word for helper is ay’zer. It was used 21 times in the Old Testament, 18 of which were in direct reference to God’s helping.
Eve as a suitable helper for Adam shouldn’t be considered:
- a slave
- as inferior
- as helpless
- his assistant
That is unless you are willing to use those words to describe God?
I didn’t think so.
Suitable meant that she was perfect for him and he for her. The perfection, or completeness, allowed for intimacy, emotional connection, and deep friendship. God created Adam and Eve to receive those things and equipped them to provide them for one another.
LIFE CAN BE FUNNY
But life can be funny. Once sin entered their lives, things changed, and I wonder if the needs and desires they were created to sustain in each other began to be ignored, or fulfilled by someone or something else?
HERE’S A THOUGHT
Women often turn to other women for friendship and emotional connection. Why? Is it because of Eve? Did God create her to need friendship and connection? Maybe? And if women don’t find it in marriage, where do they find it?
Men seek fewer friendships as they age. The boy who had best friends in childhood grows up and eliminates “best friend” from his vocabulary. Men don’t refer to men as their BFF.
God created man to need connection and created woman to meet that need. If he doesn’t find it in marriage, or if his culture and upbringing failed him, then where does he find it?
We need friends. I’m not suggesting that marriage ends friendships.
IT’S AWKWARD I KNOW
Who first said that a dog was man’s best friend?
No one knows, but a lawyer named George Graham Vest maid it popular at a trial in 1870, at the Warrensburg, Missouri County Courthouse.
The case regarded a dog named Old Drum that was killed by a neighbor. Seems the neighbor believed that Old Drum was attacking his lambs, so he shot him; and the dog’s owner, a Mr. Charles Burden, was seeking restitution. In his closing summation, Lawyer Vest made the following statement:
“The best friend a man has in this world may turn against him and become his enemy. His son or daughter that he has reared with loving care may prove ungrateful. The people who are prone to fall on their knees to do us honor when success is with us may be the first to throw the stone of malice when failure settles its cloud upon our heads. The one absolutely unselfish friend that man can have in this selfish world, the one that never deserts him and the one that never proves ungrateful or treacherous is his dog.”
The first six words combined with the last three–“The best friend a man has is his dog.”
SOME FINAL THOUGHTS
Really? If the most loyal and faithful companion a man can have is a dog, and I like dogs, then men are in worst shape than anyone could possibly imagine. Except for George Vest.
Marriage should be a bond between two best friends.
It should be Husband and Wife, not Husband and Rover.
I know. Not everyone is married and not every marriage is mature.
We all need connection and friendship, but friendships that are healthy and helpful.
God Bless You