A COUPLE OF QUOTES
“A bad penny always comes back to you.”
“Friends are like pennies, two faced and worthless.”
When did the penny get such a bad wrap?
Granted, they aren’t worth much, but pennies aren’t the cause of bad things happening and they aren’t an apt metaphor for ugliness between people.
Sounds to me like a bitter person needed something handy to blame?
WHAT’S IN A PENNY?
- Gum balls from gum ball machines
- The image of one of our most loved Presidents
- The coin of choice for penny loafers
IS THIS BLOG ABOUT PENNYS?
No, it’s not. Actually, it’s about friends and friendship.
For some, making friends is easy. For others, friendship is akin to the great pyramids: mysterious and elusive.
Mostly I’ve aimed at being friendly but having few close friends. Why? Maybe because enduring friendships with endearing people has proven difficult. Maybe I’m like the great pyramids: great friendships remain elusive.
There are exceptions. I have a few close freinds, and I’m open for more.
Yesterday, I spent an hour on the phone with an old friend. It was a work related call, in fact, the friendship formed because of work. But years ago some things pulled us apart. Or maybe it was just me.
Friendships can suffer for many reasons. We experience trials and life altering tribulations. We endure different seasons, our circumstances change, or we ourselves change, and not always for the better.
Please don’t misunderstand, we weren’t enemies, or competitors, and in spite of the quote, there were no second faces.
But as for me and my friend, our friendship has been restored, it’s been renewed, and the renewal has taken some time. But it was so worth it!
FRIENDSHIP’S SWEET FELLOWSHIP
If a bad penny comes back bad, then a good one comes back better.
My friend is smarter, brighter, and is a better person, making me better.
SOME CLOSING THOUGHTS
Friends aren’t pennies. They are people. And like all people, like ourselves, friends have flaws, sins and weaknesses. As least I do. I’m learning not to live my life behind an invisible wall. I’m learning to lower my defenses and to drop my arms. The hands up posture to keep people away is no way to live.
One of my closest friends recently said to me:
“People can be difficult and disappointing. But I’m willing to accept that in order to be connected and to have friends. I’d rather risk disappointment than to live without friendship.” Well put.
To my treasured friend: Thank you for being patient, accepting, and forgiving.