The Truth About Lying

Being the youngest of three boys I was naturally the favorite, the best behaved, and the most loved. It didn’t hurt that I was also the cutest.

I was: (1) the favorite  (2) best behaved  (3) most loved  (4) and cutest.

Was any of that true? Well, I was the youngest of three boys. Is lying saying things that aren’t true or not saying things that are true?

My mischievous brothers were always having fun and doing it without me. So with a resentful heart, I found ways to get them into trouble. They would deny it, but they were often tagged anyway since it was their nature to mess up. I would sit on the couch, smiling, and enjoying the sounds of sweet revenge. It wasn’t a perfect crime since my brothers would inevitably get even. The truth was sometimes a sliding scale for us.


One day Mom went into the kitchen and discovered that her freshly made chocolate cake had been invaded. “Boys,” she yelled, “get in here.” Thus began the grueling interrogation. “This cake was for tonight and now it’s ruined. Who did this?” We each denied it. “Well, it’s amazing that none of you touched the cake and yet it has a big piece missing. I guess it ate itself.” This line of reasoning was hard to escape, but ultimately failed to get a confession.

Parents want their kids to tell the truth. Even when they know who is guilty, they still want a confession. Things always go easier on the perp if he fesses up. Eventually, my oldest brother got the heat. Not because he was oldest, but because he stood there lying with frosting on his face. This was going to end badly for him, but he still lied. Go figure. Mom obviously saw the frosting, but she wanted a confession, she wanted the truth.

eating cake

Kids and people lie because:

  1. The feel bad and hope by lying it will go away.
  2. They fear the consequences so avoid detection.
  3. They don’t want to hurt others by telling the truth.
  4. They think if they don’t get caught, they aren’t really guilty.
  5. They lack integrity and personal responsibility.

As a sitcom character once said, “If you believe it, it isn’t really a lie.”

Jesus once said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life.” Truth thrives in the light, has nothing to hide, and stands up to scrutiny. Truth doesn’t feel embarrassed; it’s not intimidated, threatened, or diminished by falsehood.

Paul wrote, “Speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ,” (Ephesians 4:15).

As believers we are called to speak the truth and to live the truth. Jesus is truth.


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